Dating a Spaniard has often been quoted to us as a great way to learn the language. As much as I’d love to get up close and personal with Miguel Ángel Silvestre for a bit of lingo practice (cough) however, I don’t think hubby would be too impressed. So I shall live vicariously through those of you that are singletons still.
For those of you that are still single though – have a nosey below for some hints and tips.
Let’s face it – the Spanish people have more than their fair share of gorgeousness. Those ladies with their flowing brunette locks and fiery passion… those handsome men in Spain with their chocolate brown eyes and the sexiest of smiles – well there’s not a lot to complain about! Add to the list people such as Antonio Banderas, Blanca Suárez, Enrique Iglesias and Paz Vega… and you’ll get the idea.
If you’re anything like me – you smile at the telly (or cinema screen) whenever one of these gorgeous people appears. No judging, but it is what it is. You’ve just got to love them.
Looks aside – there’s something very alluring about the Spanish language – and indeed the accent. You are sure to find their accent extremely sexy, sense of style appealing, and let’s not keep going back to their signature looks. It is so easy to see why both men and women from all over the world swoon over them. They aren’t said to speak the “romance languages” for nothing.
Let’s not get confused between Spaniards, Hispanics and Latinos – there are differences between them all. For this article, however, we’re mainly concentrating on Spaniards – people who were born and bred in Spain rather than Latinos who are from South America. However – if you do fancy a little information about Latinos, you can find that here.
Dating a Spaniard: Culture
To fully enjoy the experience of dating Spaniards, it would be nice to know some things about their cultures and traditions. This will give you an edge, and help you know what to expect and what is obtainable. Obviously, you don’t need me to tell you that these are “tongue in cheek” generalisations because of course everyone is different.
The end goal for them is usually marriage. Spaniards are more traditional about such things than say perhaps the Brits are.
Typically, anyone can make the first move. If you are a lady and want to approach a chap – just do it. Don’t wait for him to make the first move.
It’s a family affair…everyone will be actively involved. Embrace that! Before you know it you’ll be an integral part of a warm and loving family unit.
They don’t really whisper. They tend to hold loud conversations. So to be heard, you’ll probably become louder also, especially at family gatherings.
Religion and culture are very important to them. Spain is still predimonantly a Catholic country.
Your sense of timing will adjust. If you used to be early, you’ll start running late. If you used to be late, you’ll be later. Don’t panic – it’s normal and certainly reduces the stress of getting somewhere on time.
Family is everything to them.
They say long goodbyes. You might want to start saying your goodbyes about 30 minutes before you’re ready.
You will dance, or at least try to.
Dating a Spaniard – ladies
No one ever dates a Spanish woman and then forgets her – she’s passionate, irresistible and unforgettable. Not dissimilar to Spanish ladies are the Latinas – this video is worth a watch – and comes from a chap who is dating a Latina lady.
She is secure in being Spanish and totally loves it. So, if she’s as important to you as you say she is, you should get to know her culture and background. But please do not ask her why “they” all behave in a certain way. Also, do not attribute any part of her behaviour to being Spanish or things won’t end well – it’s like blaming menstruation for a woman’s mood… how do you THINK it’s going to turn out?!
She’s super stylish and will always dress to the nines no matter the occasion, even if it’s to go get the mail. Look at those gorgeous young women milling about in the cities – they’re all dressed to the nines with perfect haior and makeup. Usually anyway.
You’ll never go hungry (either home cooked or takeaway) and you cannot afford to turn down food (even things you don’t eat) being offered by her or her family. Its deemed rude if you do. Oh and you’ll eat dinner really late but you already knew that.
The beautiful Spanish woman will always turn heads and get unsolicited attention. She’s sexy and she knows it, and well, that’s how society sees her – she’s gorgeous! So, you’ve got to be a secure and confident man to date her. Leave your jealousy and possessiveness at the door.
She is very passionate and hurts hard too. Once she’s down with you, she’s down. She’s probably a social butterfly, with hugs and kisses on the cheek flying around at gatherings. Do not however misinterpret her friendliness. She0’s usually greeting a friend rather than flirting. Again – leave your jealousy at the door.
She’ll probably introduce you to her family early on. She’s a keeper and the sooner she gets you cleared by her Papi, Mami and the rest of the crew, the clearer the direction of the relationship.
Dating a Spaniard – men
So what are Spanish or Latino men like? They are nothing like anyone you have ever experienced. Here are a few pointers into who they are, what they want, and what to expect dating them.
Sundays are for fútbol. Even if you don’t love the sport, the least you can do is watch him, cheer him on and just support him as it will go a long way. Seeing him do one of the things he loves should bring you joy.
They are gorgeous! For the most part, they fit the tall, dark, and handsome profile. So, expect them to be smoking hot. Remember Enrique Iglesias, or Antonio Banderas? ¡Perfecto!
They are quite traditional but Spain is definitely leading the way for equal opportunities for women. Allow your Spanish man to open a door, pull out a chair… and sometimes pick up the tab or take on the provider role. He’s worshipping you like the Goddess you are but will equally love if you are driven and work hard.
They are extremely romantic. The gestures are to die for. You can expect romantic dinner dates, sexy dance dates like salsa, or he could even cook for you. What’s not to love about that?
Emotionally aware. There’s no fear of being open about their feelings. So, as much as they are confident, they can be all softie and mushy every now and then.
We’ve seen some benefits of dating a Spaniard. Depending on what part of the world you’re in, if you want to have a first-hand experience of this yumminess, then distance is no longer a barrier. Just get online. Not just anywhere online, but on Spanish or Latin dating sites as they are designed just for that purpose.
You already know online dating is in right now. It’s particularly cool because you eliminate a lot of limitations pertaining to physical dating. Think about dating from the comfort of your home, or at least initiating it.
You do need to be a bit more careful when choosing an online dating site than if you were picking a bar to go to for the evening. There are some great options out there but also plenty of sites you want to avoid, check out this full review of Doublelist.com as a great example. These dating coaches spent weeks using the site to determine that it really wasn’t a great option for most singles.
After you’ve found a good option or two remember not to take things too seriously. Online dating should be a supplement, not your main focus. It’s easy to get sucked in and only use dating sites to meet singles but you’re better off with a more balanced approach.
Benefits of Spanish Dating Sites
You get access to a community that provides connections just to Spaniards, Hispanics and Latinos so the process to finding the “one” is more targetted.
They are affordable. You don’t have to go out, buy drinks or food. With dating sites, you just need to register, probably for free and be in front of millions of potential mates.
You can be specific about your needs. From their profiles, you can tell who is in line with your desires. You can avoid the emotional roller coaster of going on several dates and getting shocked in many cases.
There are security measures (SSL encryption, background checks, customer support, etc.) in place to keep users safe. Safer than meeting up with a total stranger at a bar.
Rejection is more bearable. It doesn’t make it suck less, but the screen barrier saves you their body language or facial expression.
Love is a beautiful thing. It is a universal language that everyone can speak and deserves irrespective of age, colour, race or social status. Online dating should be simple and fun. Dating a Spaniard can be simpler and even more fun.
Buena Suerte, amigos.
How many of you are dating a Spaniard? We’d love to hear your experiences.
Elle, along with Alan, is the owner of Spain Buddy and the busy web design business – Spain Web Design by Gandy-Draper.
Born a “Norverner”, she then spent most of her life “Dann Saff” before moving to Spain in 2006. Elle’s loves are Alan, the internet, dogs, good food, and dry white wine – although not necessarily in that order.